10/26/2009

How to raise a child

We think only of protecting our child, but this is not enough. We ought to teach him to protect himself when he has become a man; to bear the blows of destiny; to brave opulence and misery; to live; if need be, amid snows of Iceland or on the burning rocks of Malta.

9/25/2009

Excellence

What is truly valuable is acquainting ourselves with the best that has been known and said.

9/24/2009

Freedom

In all things, above all things, liberty. --John Selden

Kant conceives freedom as the "power of self-determination" and "absolute self-activity." Freedom is the power of self-origination of a state.

Freedom in its "practical meaning" is the will's independence of coercion through sensuous impulses.

If You Hate a Person

If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us. --Hermann Hesse

Exercise

Don't be concerned if running or exercise will add years to your life, be concerned with adding life to your years. The strenuous life tastes better. --Dr. George Sheehan

John A. Kelley (old John) won Boston 1935 and 1945. He first run Boston in 1928 at the age of 20 and the last in 1992 at the age of 84 (5:58:00). Kelley died in 2004 at the age of 97.

I wish to preach, not the doctrine of ignoble ease, but the doctrine of the strenuous life. --Theodore Roosevelt

Trouble & Anxiety

Never trouble trouble till trouble troubles you.

The natural role of 20th century man is anxiety. --Norman Mailer

How much have cost us the evils that never happened! --Thomas Jefferson

There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. --William Shakespeare

Money

If you want to know what God thinks of money, just look at the people he gave it to. --Dorothy Parker

The solution of the personal money question lies neither in saving nor in not saving. The true solution is to forget money utterly and to concentrate all one's thought and energy upon the wise spending of time, upon that chosen work which seems interesting and important regardless of reward. If the spending of time is handled with common sense, the smaller problem--the money question--which is inescapably involved in it, will be settled at the same moment.

Any simpleton can save up his dollars, but the wisest of men cannot save up opportunities--they must be used as they come.

Death

We all labor against our own cure, for death is the cure of all diseases. - Thomas Browne

死是生的必然结果。As soon as man comes to life, he is at once old enough to die (Martin Heidegger)。 任何生物都时刻有死的危险,死是不可预知的,不分时间和地点。Martin Heidegger谈到死的三个特点:  死代表着个体的结束,死不能由别人所代替,死是一个不可错过的步骤。

Enlightenment

The motto of enlightenment is to have the courage to use your own mind.

9/23/2009

Reason

 Every man's own reason must be his own oracle.

Man is the beast endowed with reason. Reason is the perception of what is, which always means also what can and ought to be.

Man, once surrendering his reason, has no remaining guard against absurdities, and like a ship without rudder, is the sport of every wind. --Thomas Jefferson

Ambition

Ulcers are the footprint of ambition.

Truth

We need the truth and love it and seek it. And yet it is just as easy to demonstrate that we are also simultaneously afraid to know the truth.

Optimism

An optimist stays up to see the New Year in. A pessimist waits to make sure the old one leaves. --Bill Vaughan

Fate

Love of your fate. --Nietzsche

Soul

The soul grows according to it own law. --Heracleitos

The soul, too, has virginity and must bleed a little before bearing fruit. --George Santayana

The seat of the soul is there where the inner and outer worlds meet.

"The Conference of the Birds" by Fariduddin Attar is no accident a story about birds, for the bird is an ancient symbol of the human soul,  which can be either caged or set free.

Wisdom

True wisdom lives far from mankind, out in the great loneliness, and can be reached only through suffering. Privation and suffering alone open the mind to all that is hidden to others. --Joseph Campbell

Love

In true love it is the soul that embraces the body. --De Maupassant

Eros is a biological urge.
Agape is spiritual love--love thy neighbor as thyself kind of love.

The love of beauty and our uneasiness with it. Our love of good man and our irritation with him. Our search for excellence and our tendency to destroy it.

Vanity

Wherefore I praised the dead which are already dead, more than the living which are yet alive... A good name is better than precious ointment, and the day of death than the day of one's birth... A man has no pre-eminence over a beast... All go unto one place, all turn to dust again... All is vanity. --Ecclesiastes

Ecclesiastes studies history and concludes that this, too, is vanity, for history in the large repeats itself and, like the family Bible, is a record of births and deaths.

Power

There are three powers in the world: sagacity, strength, and luck.

It is said that power corrupts, but actually it's more true that power attracts the corruptible. The sane are usually attracted by other things than power. --David Brin

Whenever a man has cast a longing eye on offices, a rottenness begins in his conduct.--Thomas Jefferson

I have seen enough of political honors to know that they are but splendid torments. The little spice of ambition which I had in my younger days has long since evaporated, and I set still less store by a posthumous than present time. Pride costs us more than hunger, thirst, and cold.--Thomas Jefferson.

Never did a prisoner, released from his chains, feel such relief as I shall shake off the shackles of power. Nature intended me for the tranquil pursuits of science by rendering them my supreme delight. --Thomas Jefferson

Happiness

Happiness definition: emotional tone accompanying the self-realization of a personality. This self-realization process is the smooth functioning of the entire organism as it carries out successfully the dominant desires of the moment.

Prescription for lifelong happiness:
1.  Purpose enough for satisfaction
2.  Work enough for sustenance
3.  Sanity enough to know when to play and rest
4.  Wealth enough for basic needs
5.  Affection enough to like many and love a few
6.  Self-respect enough to love yourself
7.  Charity enough to give to others in need
8.  Courage enough to face difficulties
9.  Creative enough to solve problems
10. Humor enough to laugh at will
11. Hope enough to enjoy life for all its worth
12. Gratitude enough to appreciate what you have

Only ourselves can make us happy. The joy we see in others is a reflection of the joy in ourselves. --Jean Paul Sartre

Seize the day, pay special attention to Aphrodite. Put gloomy thoughts aside. Drain the cup and be glad. This too is solid Greek wisdom.

Material Possession

There must be more in life than having it all. --Maurice Sendak

Human nature--satisfaction from any purchase is always short-lived, if experienced at all. So we yearn for more. Enough is never enough.

In our quest to have it all, we end up experiencing less peace, happiness, and satisfaction than we would if we learned how to be satisfied with much less.

We are not going to be the richest people in the cemetery. We are, however, very rich. We have time--I call it the most expensive commodity of them all.

Security

The word "security" comes from the Latin word securus, which means "without care." In this regard, true security is an internal state of being, not determined by how much money an individual is able to acquire.

Security based on external possessions is, in fact, one of life's greatest illusions. Paradoxically, people pursuing security are among the most insecure, and people who least care about security are the most secure.


Security is a kind of death.
Security is the manifestation of depth.

Leisure

Leisure is essential to wisdom.

Now the object of all, so I believe, is the same--to live more at leisure and at ease. But we do not always intelligently seek the pathway to this end. --Montaigne

Creativity

Of three precious resources in life--time, money, and creativity, the only unlimited one is your creativity. Make it your no.1 resource, and time and money won't be as scarce.

To invent or create you must have the "arrogance of creativeness" which so many investigators have noticed. But, of course, if you have only the arrogance without the humility, then you're in fact paranoid.

Self

To know and to live in accord with human nature is to yield the force of one's own will to the energy, the being-at-work, within one, to will to become no more and no less than what one is. This is essential Greek wisdom; and its reward is happiness or well-being.

And I'll tel you why, my friend. I can't as yet "know myself" as the inscription at Delphi enjoins, and so long as that ignorance remains it seems to me ridiculous to inquire into extraneous matters. --Socrates

The attainment of self-knowledge of human nature, is all the more urgent and crucial for human beings, because they must choose whether to act in accord with their nature or to act in defiance of it.

All is disgust when one leaves his own nature and does things which misfit it.

If you were a tree, what kind do you think you would be? --A Barbara Walters question for celebrities

This problem of being unwilling to be yourself is as old as history and as universal as human life.

We are all serving a life-sentence in the dungeon of self. --Cyril Connolly

He fell in love with himself at first sight and it is a passion to which he has always remained faithful. --Anthony Powell

Nobody wants to be this strenuous thing: an individual; it demands an effort.

If a person does not become what he understands, he does not really understand it.

In life you must die to your false self and be reborn as your true self. This is a fundamental Sufi principle.

I neither estimated myself highly nor lowly: I did not estimate myself at all. --John Stuart Mill

Jacques Lacan, the French psychoanalyst and psychiatrist considered the self as something constituted in the "other," that is the conception of the external. In Lacan's view, the self remained in constant internal conflict and that only extensive self-deceit made the situation bearable.

Kierkegaard believes this is the most terrible way to live: to enchant the whole world through one's discoveries and cleverness, to explain all of nature, yet not to understand oneself. --Karl Jaspers

Reflection is primarily self-reflection. To understand oneself is the way to truth.

He mentioned Aldous Huxley---He could look out at the world with wide eyes, with unabashed innocence, awe, and fascination, which is a kind of admission of smallness, a form of humility, and then proceed calmly and unafraid to the great tasks he set for himself.

Our own inner unique self has its own laws, its own inner dynamic, autonomous laws of the psyche rather than of the environment. These laws are different from, separate from, and even opposed to the laws of the external reality.

One can very well eat lettuce before its heart has been formed; still, the delicate crispness of the heart and its lovely frizz are something altogether different from the leaves. It is the same in the world of spirit. Being too busy has this result that an individual very, very rarely is permitted to form a heart; on the other hand, the thinker, the poet, or the religious personality, who actually has formed his heart will never be popular, not because it is difficult, but because it demands quiet and prolonged working with oneself and intimate knowledge of oneself as well as a certain isolation. --Kierkegaard

Know that he who is a friend to himself is friend to all men.

不如意事常八九
可与言者无二三

Religion

As it was, his [Mill's father] aversion to religion in the sense usually attached to the term. He regarded it with the feelings due not to a mere mental delusion, but to a great moral evil. --John Stuart Mill

Old Age

He  who is of a calm and happy nature will hardly feel the pressure of age. But to him who is of an opposite disposition, youth and age are equally a burden. --Plato

What compensate of the old age in human is the gain of wisdom, something you don't see much in the kingdom of animals.

Life has got to be lived--that's all there is to it. At seventy, I would say the advantage is that you take life more calmly. You know that this too shall pass. --Eleanor Roosevelt

These crowded hours have been interesting and stimulating. They have, I hope, been useful. They have, at least, been lived to the hilt. --Eleanor Roosevelt

Grow old along with me!
The best is yet to be,
The last of life,
For which the first was made. --Robert Browning

Most of us believe that aging is accompanied by a sharp decline in our physical and mental abilities. We think getting older means getting sick. But, as you'll soon discover, disease is not an inevitable part of aging. In fact, it is even possible to become biologically younger while you become chronologically older.

Luella Tyra was 92 in 1984, when she competed in five categories at the U. S. Swimming Nationals in Mission Viejo, California.

Life

Life is like shoes, we have to choose the ones that fit our feet, and ours only.

Much of what we carry around with us belongs to someone else.

We can't live backwards, but we can always think backwards.

From his [Mill's father]own intercourse with me I could derive none but a very humble opinion of myself; and the standard of comparison he always held up to me was not what other people did, but what a man could and ought to do. --John Stuart Mill

Our life is like a a journey on which, as we advance, the landscape takes a different view from that which it presented at first, and change again, as we come nearer.

The ultimate aid of Dakota life, stripped of accessories, was quite simple: One must obey kinship rules, one must be a good relatives. Thus only was it possible to live communally with success, with a minimum of friction and maximum of good will.

How ridiculous and how much of a stranger in the universe is he who is surprised at anything which happens in his life. --Marcus Aurelius

Quiescence, a kind of philosophical inaction, a refusal to interfere with the natural courses of things, is the mark of the wise man in every field. --Will Durant

A deep principle of life is not about a searching for the meaning of life but for the experience of being alive. --Joseph Campbell

When we turn outward, we see all of these little problems here and there. But, if we look inward we see that we are the source of them all.

Now God must have known very well that man was going to eat the forbidden fruit. But it was by doing that that man became the initiator of his own life. Life really began with that act of disobedience. --Joseph Campbell

The greater life's pain, the greater life's reply.

Friendship

The easiest kind of relationship for me is with ten thousand people. The hardest is with one. --Joan Baez

There is little friendship in the world, and least of all between equals. --Francis Bacon

In the misfortune of our best friends, we find something which is not displeasing to us. --Rochefoucauld

Solitude

No one talks better about solitude than Thoreau. Making friend with oneself is a mission of life, sooner accomplished the better. We have to be alone if we want to enjoy ourselves to the utmost.  

I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude. -- Thoreau

I was never less alone than by myself. --Edward Gibbon

Content thyself to be obscurely good.
When vice prevails,
And impious men bear away,
The post of honor is a private station. --Joseph Addison

Can you enjoy being alone? If you can't, it's probably a sign that you aren't able to discover quality in your own character. Put another way, you have low self-esteem, a sense of feeling unworthy and undeserving of your own company.

One of the pleasantest thing in the world is going a journey; but I like to go by myself. I can enjoy society in a room; but out of doors, nature is company enough for me. I am then never less alone than when alone. --William Hazilitt

I must desire solitude if I dare to exist out of my own primal sources and thus to enter into the deepest communication.

The yardstick for a human being is how long and to what degree he can bear to be alone, devoid of understanding with others. A man who could bear being alone during a whole lifetime, and alone in decisions of eternal significance, is farthest removed from the infant and the society-person who represent the animal definition of a human being. --Kierkegaard

Time

For a child, a year seems very long; for an adult, it seems like an instant. That is because as a person ages, a year represents an increasingly smaller portion of that person's life.

The objective of life is not to get through it as fast as possible. ---Ernie J. Zelinski

Don't spend your time searching for the happy moment. You're that moment.

A recent research study at Penn State University indicated that what we perceive as a time crunch is, in large measure, just an erroneous perception. We call have enough time to do the important and enjoyable things, but we squander it. If we would make excellent use of just 30 or 40 percent of our time, we wouldn't have any shortage. --Ernie J. Zelinski

You can transcend time by doing your own thing at your own speed. Again, forget about what the masses are doing. Take control of your physical and psychic space instead of allowing the distractions of the modern world to influence your lifestyle. --Ernie J. Zelinski

To make your day longer, don't rush; slow down instead. In a somewhat magical way, you will have more time when you start living every moment for all it is worth. --Zelinski

Keep in mind that you can't earn more time, no matter how hard you work. And you can't buy it, no matter how much money you have. So spend it wisely, much more so than you spend money.

Author Scott Peck, who has a full and busy life, is often asked, "How can you do all that you do?" His normal reply is: "Because I spend a least two hours a day doing nothing." --Zelinski

9/21/2009

Mediocre

To realize that one is mediocre is a great jump into intelligence.

An ordinary person accepts who he is. You don't see competing or cheating in his life. He lives according to nature. He is not a hypocrite. He doesn't pretend for something he is not. From him we see the beauty of simplicity and openness. No deception. No darkness.